Beverly is the best selling author of
eighteen self-help books. She is a
psychotherapist with over 25 years of experience and is an internationally
recognized expert in the fields of abuse, women's issues, relationships, and
sexuality. She has shared her expertise on many national television programs,
including: CNN, Oprah!, Sally Jesse Raphael, Ricki Lake, and Leeza, and is a
frequent keynote speaker and workshop leader at conferences throughout the
United States and Canada. Beverly currently lives on the beautiful Central
California coast.
Welcome
My intention in creating this website is to make myself more accessible to
my readers, to get feedback on the books I've already written, input on future
publications, and to offer services such as on-line counseling to those who need
further help.
Latest News:
Beverly is featured in the August issue of
Oprah Magazine in the article entitled,
"21 Things to Stop Worrying About Right Now."
How women can overcome the pressure to please and feel free to be their true selves Women who are too nice send the message that they are an easy
target to be taken advantage of. Being too nice also prevents women from standing up for themselves and keeps them in unhealthy or even abusive
relationships.
"Beverly Engel traverses a wide spectrum as she explicates The
Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome. She boils down the common essences of various
psychiatric disorders such as Borderline and Narcissistic Personality
Disorders and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder to describe the conflicted
bipolar Shadows of those whose expressions to the world vary so widely.
Easy-to-understand explanations and advice in dealing with individuals
with changeable personalities allow The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome to
describe the Yin and Yang of those engaged in this monumental human
struggle."
—Jerold J. Kreisman, m.d. coauthor of Sometimes I Act Crazy:
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder and I Hate You, Don't Leave
Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in
growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engel's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives."
—Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy
How to Move Beyond your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future
— John Wiley and Sons 2004
"According to Engel,
'in the past twenty-five years
studies on abuse and family assaults strongly suggest that abused children
become abusers themselves,' yet victims often don’t receive any treatment until
their repetition of the abuse is already underway. In this clear, empathetic
self-help book, Engel aims to stop that cycle by teaching readers to remember
the past truthfully, to identify and manage their emotions, and to recognize the
characteristics of abusive relationships. An experienced psychotherapist and
prolific author (The Emotionally Abused Woman; Loving Him without Losing You,
etc.), Engel is also an abuse survivor herself. Her attitude towards her readers
is gentle and understanding; she clearly knows firsthand how difficult victim
and abuser patterns are to break. Readers are expected to perform a good deal of
homework aiming at self-discovery: answering simple questions, writing down
their memories, tracing family patterns, etc. Some may argue that Engel presents
the most crucial advice—what to do if you’ve already become abusive—too late in
volume, by which point an abuser may have dropped the book. But the middle
chapters—on shame and its manifestations, on anger, sorrow and fear—are some of
the best, especially when Engel delves into the effects of physical, sexual and
emotional abuse on children. Though she deals thoroughly with the psychology of
victims, Engel concentrates far more than in her earlier books on trying to
reach violent and sexual offenders. Violation begets violation, she says.
Parental attitudes and behavior, be they cruel, indifferent or supportive, are
passed on to later generations. This book is an excellent choice for readers who
come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future for
themselves and their families.
How Transforming Your Anger Style Can Change Your Life — John Wiley and Sons, 2003
"This
book made me angry! Why couldn’t Ms. Engel have written it years ago when it
would have helped me through difficult times? Honor Your Anger is a clearly
written, insightful look at a topic that concerns everyone. You can indeed learn
to understand and manage your anger, and this book will show you how."
--Robert Epstein, Ph.D., West Coast Editor, Psychology
Today Director Emeritus, Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies University Research Professor, California School of Professional
Psychology
How to Stop Being Abused and How to
Stop Abusing —John Wiley and Sons, 2002
"A
good, solid treatment of an insidious but all-too-common type of
relationship in which the weapons are words and moods rather than the fist,
but which do just as much damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’t just
describe–she shows us the way out."
–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Emotional Blackmail
Watch for Beverly on the upcoming "Starting Over" show on NBC, March 2004
"Loving
Him without Losing You is a powerful and practical guide to relationships
that every woman should read!"
-Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., New York Times
bestselling author of Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know and Are
You the One for Me?
"This is a book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women
who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of
adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings
separate from their relationships with men and boys."
—Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young
Man
• Finalist in Books for a Better Life Award
• Publisher's Weekly review
"Beverly Engel has indeed eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. This book is a wise contribution to the ever-growing literature on forgiveness and reconciliation. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its
role in reconciliation."
—Rabbi
Charles A. Klein (Author, How to Forgive When You Can't Forget)
Beverly is a frequent contributor to Psychology
Today's "Mind's Eye" feature.
Beverly is the best selling author of
eighteen self-help books. She is a
psychotherapist with over 25 years of experience and is an internationally
recognized expert in the fields of abuse, women's issues, relationships, and
sexuality. She has shared her expertise on many national television programs,
including: CNN, Oprah!, Sally Jesse Raphael, Ricki Lake, and Leeza, and is a
frequent keynote speaker and workshop leader at conferences throughout the
United States and Canada. Beverly currently lives on the beautiful Central
California coast.
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in
growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engel's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives."
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