Beverly Engel, MFCT

Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome

"Beverly Engel traverses a wide spectrum as she explicates The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome. She boils down the common essences of various psychiatric disorders such as Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder to describe the conflicted bipolar Shadows of those whose expressions to the world vary so widely. Easy-to-understand explanations and advice in dealing with individuals with changeable personalities allow The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome to describe the Yin and Yang of those engaged in this monumental human struggle."

—Jerold J. Kreisman, m.d. coauthor of Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder and I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

Healing Your Emotional Self

"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engel's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives."

—Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy

Breaking the Cycle of Abuse:

How to Move Beyond your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future
     — John Wiley and Sons 2004

"According to Engel, 'in the past twenty-five years studies on abuse and family assaults strongly suggest that abused children become abusers themselves,' yet victims often don’t receive any treatment until their repetition of the abuse is already underway. In this clear, empathetic self-help book, Engel aims to stop that cycle by teaching readers to remember the past truthfully, to identify and manage their emotions, and to recognize the characteristics of abusive relationships. An experienced psychotherapist and prolific author (The Emotionally Abused Woman; Loving Him without Losing You, etc.), Engel is also an abuse survivor herself. Her attitude towards her readers is gentle and understanding; she clearly knows firsthand how difficult victim and abuser patterns are to break. Readers are expected to perform a good deal of homework aiming at self-discovery: answering simple questions, writing down their memories, tracing family patterns, etc. Some may argue that Engel presents the most crucial advice—what to do if you’ve already become abusive—too late in volume, by which point an abuser may have dropped the book. But the middle chapters—on shame and its manifestations, on anger, sorrow and fear—are some of the best, especially when Engel delves into the effects of physical, sexual and emotional abuse on children. Though she deals thoroughly with the psychology of victims, Engel concentrates far more than in her earlier books on trying to reach violent and sexual offenders. Violation begets violation, she says. Parental attitudes and behavior, be they cruel, indifferent or supportive, are passed on to later generations. This book is an excellent choice for readers who come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future for themselves and their families.

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Honor Your Anger:

How Transforming Your Anger Style Can Change Your Life
       — John Wiley and Sons, 2003

"This book made me angry! Why couldn’t Ms. Engel have written it years ago when it would have helped me through difficult times? Honor Your Anger is a clearly written, insightful look at a topic that concerns everyone. You can indeed learn to understand and manage your anger, and this book will show you how."

--Robert Epstein, Ph.D., West Coast Editor, Psychology Today
Director Emeritus, Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies
University Research Professor, California School of Professional Psychology

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship:

How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
       —John Wiley and Sons, 2002

"A good, solid treatment of an insidious but all-too-common type of relationship in which the weapons are words and moods rather than the fist, but which do just as much damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’t just describe–she shows us the way out."

–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Emotional Blackmail

Watch for Beverly on the upcoming "Starting Over" show on NBC, March 2004

Loving Him Without Losing You

(Wiley & Sons, May 2000)

"Loving Him without Losing You is a powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read!"

-Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know and Are You the One for Me?

"This is a book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys."

—Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man

The Power of Apology

(Wiley, July 2001)

• Finalist in Books for a Better Life Award  
• Publisher's Weekly review

"Beverly Engel has indeed eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. This book is a wise contribution to the ever-growing literature on forgiveness and reconciliation. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation."

—Rabbi Charles A. Klein (Author, How to Forgive When You Can't Forget)