Being
in a relationship with a man or woman who suffered sexual abuse as a child can
be both difficult and rewarding. She or he may experience emotional swings and
relive long-buried memories which cannot include you. At the same time, the
partner of an adult survivor has the opportunity to provide the love and support
that can make a critical difference in recovery.
In the first book written for the mates, lovers, and friends of survivors of
childhood sexual abuse, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel gently
guides both survivors and their partners step by step through the seven phases
of recovery, including what to expect from one another and how to live through
the difficult times. She separates myth from truth and includes important
information on understanding, believing, and accepting the fact of abuse. She
also offers validations for the anger, frustration, and helplessness you are
bound to feel.
With her unique understanding of both sides of the relationship, as survivor
and therapist, Beverly Engel advises partners on questions and concerns
surrounding the balance of power, issues of control, and sexual problems. And
finally, she discusses how one partner's recovery can change a relationship and
how to determine whether the relationship is still working for both of you.
"How the prosurvivor can cope with often severe problems is discussed
in a sensitive manner. As childhood sexual abuse becomes more widely exposed,
this manual will be in increasing demand in all public libraries."
Booklist, January 1, 1992
"Despite the plethora of self-help and 12-step recovery books
available, there is a surprising lack of books written to help prosurvivors - -
those who are living with or close to someone recovering from some type of
abuse. Engel, a therapist and author of THE RIGHT TO INNOCENCE (Tarcher, 1989),
helps fill the gap with this well-written work full of advice and case histories
for prosurvivors whose companions were sexually abused as children. With an
estimated one in three adults having suffered past sexual abuse, this book will
be invaluable to anyone accompanying a survivor along the rocky road to
recovery."
Hardcover - Lowell House, Los Angeles, 1992
Paperback - Fawcett, New York, 1993
Review in Library Journal
Review in Booklist
British rights sold in 1997 to Camden Press -- New edition with new
title, national press, television and radio campaign in UK, along with
professional training programs to help promote book.
Review in Community Care, a magazine for all those in social
care, London
Being
in a relationship with a man or woman who suffered sexual abuse as a child can
be both difficult and rewarding. She or he may experience emotional swings and
relive long-buried memories which cannot include you. At the same time, the
partner of an adult survivor has the opportunity to provide the love and support
that can make a critical difference in recovery.
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