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    Beverly Engel is the author of twenty self-help books. She is an expert in the fields of sexual abuse, women’s issues, relationships, and sexuality. All of Beverly’s books are sold in bookstores or one can go directly to Amazon Books to purchase.

    I’m Saying No

    I’m Saying No

    In spite of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, many women are still afraid to say no to unwanted sexual advances and reluctant to report sexual violations. Far too many college students are being raped and are afraid to report it. Women are subjected to sexual harassment, sexual bullying, and sexual pressure every day on the street, at work, and at home but are unable to speak truth to power or to report these sexual …

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    raising myself

    raising myself

    No one could have imagined how as a child Beverly Engel could have managed to become who she is today―an internationally known expert on abuse recovery and the best-selling author of twenty-two self-help books. This is the raw, candid story of how she made her way in the world in spite of her mother’s neglect, unreasonable expectations and constant criticism; in spite of being sexually abused, first at four years old and then at nine; and in spite of being raped at twelve.

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    When Your Partner Has an Addiction

    When Your Partner Has an Addiction

    Together, addiction activist and bestselling author Christopher Kennedy Lawford and psychotherapist Beverly Engel, MFT, take a fresh look at addiction and codependency—the latest research on what causes them and what the two have in common. Rather than treat addiction or codependency as disease or weakness, When Your Partner Has an Addiction honors the trauma and shame that often lie at their source and shows you how to use your love to combat that shame, allowing you to…

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    It Wasn’t Your Fault

    It Wasn’t Your Fault

    Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion ~ Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you’ve suffered childhood emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, you may experience such debilitating shame, self-criticism, and self-doubt that you are left feeling damaged and unlovable. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to stop blaming yourself for the abuse—and for the ways you have reacted to it (i.e. alcohol and drug abuse, sexual addiction, promiscuity, self-destructiveness or abusive or victim-like behavior toward others).

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    The Nice Girl Syndrome

    The Nice Girl Syndrome

    How women can overcome the pressure to please and feel free to be their true selves Women who are too nice send the message that they are an easy target to be taken advantage of. Being too nice also prevents women from standing up for themselves and keeps them in unhealthy or even abusive relationships. In this groundbreaking book, Engel, an internationally acclaimed abuse expert, helps women confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep them stuck in their Nice Girl act while replacing them with healthier, more empowering ones. Filled with the stories of women Engel has worked with over the years, this helpful guide offers practical, much-needed advice…

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    Healing your Emotional Self

    Healing your Emotional Self

    If you are one of the thousands of people who as a child were emotionally abused, neglected or smothered by your parents, you likely suffer from low self-esteem or body-image issues. You are probably never satisfied with yourself no matter how much success you may experience, and you may have a very vocal inner critic always pointing out your flaws. Or you may be preoccupied with your body and determine your self-worth by how your body looks. In this breakthrough guide, Beverly Engel, one of the world’s leading experts on emotional, physical, and sexual abuse, explains how to heal the damage to your self-image and self-esteem caused by negative parental messages. In Healing Your Emotional Self Engel offers her highly effective Mirror Therapy program to help you reject the distorted images your parents…

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    The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

    The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

    Engel’s work in the field has helped her gain a great deal of insight and empathy for both the victim and the abuser. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship shows emotionally abused people how to help themselves, as well as showing emotionally abusive people how to stop abusing. Engel covers all aspects of emotional abuse, including the patterns that begin in childhood, teaching us how to identify and understand emotional abuse. This prescriptive book combines dramatic personal…

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    The Emotionally Abused Woman

    The Emotionally Abused Woman

    If you feel unfairly criticized, controlled by others, or are afraid of being lonely, you could be suffering from emotional abuse. Now there is help in this compassionate sourcebook. Beverly Engel, a marriage, family, and child therapist, guides you through a step-by-step recovery process to help you heal the damage done in the past.

    With the insight and sensible, compassionate guidance which have…

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    Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman

    Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman

    For those of us who are or have been emotionally abused, we know how the experience insidiously sabotages our self-esteem. We know how easy it can be to falter, to begin to feel the familiar self-doubt and fear. We need to be reminded that the abuse is not our fault. We need to find the motivation to trust our perceptions — and find the courage to change our present reality.

    ENCOURAGEMENTS FOR THE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED WOMAN addresses these needs. Whether we are just beginning to recognize that we are in abusive relationships or whether we have made the decision to break free, this book is here, a consistent reminder of…

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    The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome

    The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome

    While every person has a dark side, some people experience unpredictable or abusive mood swings that are more dramatic than average: the spouse or parent who is loving one minute and totally enraged the next, the friend whose personality changes dramatically after drinking alcohol or taking drugs, or the person who lives a double life, appearing to be the pinnacle of virtue in public while leading an entirely different existence—even maintaining a separate identity—in private. People like these suffer from what the internationally acclaimed therapist and emotional abuse expert Beverly Engel calls the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome. If you or someone you know is a Jekyll and Hyde, you know the distress, fear, confusion, and chaos that…

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    Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

    Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

    Those who perpetuate the cycle of neglect and abuse do so because they are out of control and feel they have no other options. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse shows you those options, giving you the power to break abusive patterns for good and offering a legacy of hope and healing to you and your family.

    Throughout the book, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories, including her own experiences with abuse and abusive behavior. She also addresses the sensitive topic of sexual abuse and how to avoid becoming an abuser if you were sexually abused yourself. Engel explains…

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    Loving Him Without Losing You

    Loving Him Without Losing You

    From award winning author Beverly Engel comes a book on how to retain a relationship without sacrificing all that makes you, you!

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    The Power of Apology

    The Power of Apology

    A fascinating and inspiring exploration of the healing power of apology and how to put it to work in your life.

    While books on the subject of forgiveness abound, until now there have been none focusing on one of the most important aspects of the forgiveness process–apology. In this inspiring and instructive new book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-help author Beverly Engel, readers learn why apology is so important to our emotional and physical well-being and why our inability to apologize is the source of a great deal of the dysfunction and unhappiness in all aspects of our lives. Beverly Engel sheds new light on contemporary relationships by explaining why apology is such an important part of the forgiveness process and–with the help of many…

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    Honor your Anger

    Honor your Anger

    In this provocative and groundbreaking book, respected author and therapist Beverly Engel shows that anger is a normal and healthy emotion—and that the inability to recognize your anger and express it in direct and appropriate ways can turn it into a disruptive and destructive force in your life. Instead of demonizing anger, Honor Your Anger shows you how to use your anger to improve your life.

    When most people think of someone having a problem with anger, they think the person has a “bad temper” or is unable to control his or her anger. But there are many other unhealthy way of dealing with anger, including being afraid to express your anger, expressing your anger in underhanded ways, and allowing others to act out your anger for you. This fascinating book presents a proven, step-by-step process that will help you to discover your “anger style,” identify its impact on…

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    The Right to Innocence

    The Right to Innocence

    The right To Innocence was one of the first books written on how to recover from sexual abuse and has become a classic in the field.

    Beverly has worked extensively with victims of sexual abuse and was herself sexually abused as a child. In THE RIGHT TO INNOCENCE, she offers hope for recovery with exercises, visualizations, and techniques that support you through a seven-step program, that will aid you in: facing the truth, releasing your anger, confronting those responsible with facts and feelings, forgiving yourself, and more healing…

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    Partners in Recovery

    Partners in Recovery

    Being in a relationship with a man or woman who suffered sexual abuse as a child can be both difficult and rewarding. She or he may experience emotional swings and relive long-buried memories which cannot include you. At the same time, the partner of an adult survivor has the opportunity to provide the love and support that can make a critical difference in recovery.

    In the first book written for the mates, lovers, and friends of survivors of childhood sexual abuse, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel gently guides both survivors and their partners step by step through the seven phases of recovery, including what to expect from one another and how to live through the difficult times. She separates myth from truth and includes important information on understanding, believing, and accepting the fact of abuse. She also offers…

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    The Parenthood Decision

    The Parenthood Decision

    Most people realize that just wanting a baby doesn’t mean you are mentally, emotionally, or physically prepared to have one. Nor does the desire to have a baby necessarily mean you will be a good parent. Many couples and singles struggle with this decision as they consider their life situation, lifestyle, and how a child will forever change their life. Enter THE PARENTHOOD DECISION, the first book to take a clear-eyed look at the issues, the positive and pitfalls, that all…

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    Sensual Sex

    Sensual Sex

    SENSUAL SEX is based on the idea that by becoming more attuned to our five senses we can develop an increasingly erotic relationship with our body and our partner’s body. Sex therapist Beverly Engel takes readers through each of the five senses and gives exercises to help lovers increase their pleasure and intimacy by learning to…

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    Families in Recovery

    Families in Recovery

    Few things can mean more to survivors of childhood sexual abuse than the support of their families, yet few traumas have such potential to rip families apart. With a compassionate hand, psychotherapist Beverly Engel leads survivors and their families through the difficult, cathartic process of mutual recovery. Whether you are…

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    Divorcing a Parent

    Divorcing a Parent

    Do you come away from contact with your parents with unbearable feelings of rage, low self-esteem, and depression?

    Are your parents hypercritical, manipulative, and/or controlling?

    No matter how much you do for your parent, is it never enough?

    No one should have to endure an abusive, unhealthy relationship that threatens his or her well-being — even if that relationship is with a parent. A family and child counselor with fifteen years experience, Beverly Engel divorced her own mother three years ago — not because of past abuse, but because of…

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