Emotional, physical, and mental readiness for parenting; willingness to accept permanent lifestyle changes; and emotional ability to provide a nurturing environment are the three major qualities involved in the parenthood decision. Short questionnaires throughout the text help prospective parents assess honestly and in detail whether they are ready, willing, and able to take on parenting. Answering such questions as Why do I want to have a child? Do I have the energy to be a good parent? and What will I give up? is intended to get prospective parents to grasp the qualities needed for successful parenting. For those who must acknowledge, however unwillingly, that they are not prepared for the sacrifices demanded by child rearing, Engel also offers comforting strategies for deciding whether to wait until the time is right or to forgo having children altogether. Her knowing, empathic style further assists prospective parents in deeply exploring personal qualities and concerns.