Part II: Self-kindness can help you get stronger if emotionally abused. Posted October 29, 2021   KEY POINTS Self-kindness is a powerful tool to help heal emotional abuse. People need to take the time to acknowledge how much the abuse has hurt them. Comforting oneself through self-kindness can be the beginning of the healing journey. This is Part II. in my series on how self-compassion can help heal victims of emotional abuse. Once you...

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Part 1: How practicing self-compassion can help heal emotional abuse. Posted October 28, 2021 KEY POINTS Self-compassion is a powerful tool for those who experience emotional abuse. Those experiencing emotional abuse seldom offer themselves compassion. Self-compassion can help you develop more self-acceptance. If you have been a victim of emotional or physical abuse, you are probably very good at putting yourself in your partner’s position and...

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An effective shame-reduction program. As I have shared in my previous posts, I believe that shame is the most damaging aspect of emotional abuse, so much so that I designed a shame reduction program for emotional abuse victims. This proprietary program has been highly successful with my clients. It features six major avenues for reducing or eliminating the shame of emotional abuse. They are: Emotional abuse de-programming. Like members of a...

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Heal your shame in order to end an emotionally abusive relationship. Emotional abuse and shame go hand in hand—a perfect marriage, so to speak. Shame is a significant factor in emotional abuse since it is the primary damage caused by emotional abuse. It is also the primary tool used by abusers and the source of emotionally abusive behavior in abusers. Coming to identify how shame is affecting you and understanding how shame works to diminish...

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Three important steps to help you stay strong when you are tempted. KEY POINTS It is normal to consider going back to an emotional abuser, but following three steps could help you gain clarity and courage. The steps include asking yourself if you are considering going back out of fear, and noticing how you have felt since ending the relationship. Another important step is remembering how you felt during the relationship. Those who are finally...

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Stefano Lunardi Source: 123RF Stock Photo 7 signs that it’s critical to end your relationship for your health and safety. KEY POINTS People often avoid confronting the consequences of an emotionally abusive relationship. Signs that it is critical to end the relationship include physical abuse, abuse toward children, and fantasizing about harming a partner. Individual therapy can help people emotionally and logistically prepare to leave...

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