LMFT, Psychotherapist, Best Selling Author, Dynamic Speaker

Media Coverage

Beverly Engel has appeared as the guest expert on numerous National TV programs, including Oprah!, CNN, Ricki Lake, Sally Jesse Raphael, and Phil Donahue. She’s also appeared on many popular national radio programs. 

Beverly has been the subject of feature articles in many magazines and newspapers, including, Oprah Magazine, Psychology Today, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Marie Claire, Redbook, Shape, and Men’s Health magazines and The Washington Post, Arizona Republic, and Los Angeles Herald Examiner newspapers.

Podcast | Escaping Emotional Abuse w/ Beverly Engel

By: Jasmine Svare | March 1, 2024
“Loving Him without Losing You” and the idea of the “disappearing woman” is the focus on this podcast with Beverly Engel. This is a book that I think every woman should read! Beverly Engel has been a psychotherapist for forty-five years, specializing in the areas of abuse recovery, relationships, women’s issues, and sexuality. She is also the best-selling author of twenty-five self-help books, many of which have been featured on national television and radio programs (Oprah, CNN, Ricki Lake, Starting Over) as well as national print media (O Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Psychology Today, The Washington Post, The LA Times, and The Chicago Tribune to name a few). She is considered one of the world’s leading experts on the issue of emotional abuse, as well as a pioneer on the issue, having written one of the first recovery books on the subject (The Emotionally Abused Woman)

Podcast | Escaping Emotional Abuse w/ Beverly Engel

Dr. Debi Silber _ July 5, 2021

New podcast with Dr. Debi Silber for The PBT Institute : Escaping Emotional Abuse w/ Beverly Engel. In this episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, Beverly discusses what usually occurs in an emotionally abusive relationship and how we can be compassionate toward ourselves to begin the healing process.

Podcast | Standing Up and Walking Out on Abusers and Narcissists with Beverly Engel

The Love Fix Podcast | June 4, 2021

The next episode of The Love Fix Podcast of out. Sherry kicks off this week talking about how great exercise and movement have been for her mental health, and Carla couldn’t agree more. They take a Love Fix question about if it’s ever a good idea to take back a cheater, and then welcome psychotherapist Beverly Engel to the show. Beverly specializes in abuse recovery and is the author of 23 self help books and has been on Oprah! Starting over and many other TV programs throughout the years. Beverly talks about the difference between what she calls intentional and unintentional abuse, some red flags of both in dating, and gives her advice to those out there dating after an abusive relationship. She also talks with Sherry and Carla about how the way our date treats the wait staff matters much more beyond politeness. Link in bio. Avail on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

Podcast |Rebroadcast: Childhood Abuse, Shame and Healing Through Self Compassion With Beverly Engel

Real Health Radio | March 10, 2023

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Podcast | Episode 105: Escaping Emotional Abuse with Beverly Engel

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast |February 11, 2021

The next episode of The Love Fix Podcast of out. Sherry kicks off this week talking This month, I am kicking off a mini-series on abuse on the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. In this episode, Beverly Engel joins me to talk about emotional abuse. She is the author of Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve.

Emotional abuse is a deep and insidious attack on the soul. It causes the victim to question the truth about themselves, to doubt their worthiness as a person, and even the capacity to love.

In Beverly’s book, she writes that she found emotional abuse and shame to be more harmful than physical abuse. Whether or not you are being emotionally abused, this episode is a must-listen. The only way to help people from abuse like emotional abuse is to talk openly and honestly about it. We cover so much in this episode, I hope you’ll tune in.

Podcast |How to love your inner child with self-compassion | Trauma Healing Coach

Think Unbroken with Michael Unbroken | Childhood Trauma, CPTSD, and Mental Health Recovery

The next episode of The Love Fix Podcast of out. Sherry kicks off this week talking This month, I am kicking off a mini-series on abuse on the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. In this episode, Beverly Engel joins me to talk about emotional abuse. She is the author of Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve.

Emotional abuse is a deep and insidious attack on the soul. It causes the victim to question the truth about themselves, to doubt their worthiness as a person, and even the capacity to love.

In Beverly’s book, she writes that she found emotional abuse and shame to be more harmful than physical abuse. Whether or not you are being emotionally abused, this episode is a must-listen. The only way to help people from abuse like emotional abuse is to talk openly and honestly about it. We cover so much in this episode, I hope you’ll tune in.

Podcast |227: Childhood Abuse, Shame and Healing Through Self Compassion With Beverly Engel

Real Health Radio | February 25, 2021

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Podcast |Escaping Emotional Abuse with Psychologist and Victim Advocate Beverly Engel

A Fint Time for Healing | January 5, 2021

While physical abuse is an attack on the body, emotional abuse is a deep and insidious assault on the psyche and the soul. It causes the victim to question the truth about him or herself – to doubt one’s worthiness as a person, one’s ability to satisfy a partner, even the capacity to love.

Today’s special guest Beverly Engel is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of toxic relationships and sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of 23 self-help books, including 3 bestselling books on emotional abuse: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, The Emotionally Abused Woman, and Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman. Engel is a licensed …

Podcast |Discussing Emotional Abuse with Best Selling Author Beverly Engel – Bonus Episode!

Toxic Person Proof | January 5, 2021

For more from Sarah please check out The Systematic Strategy High-achieving Women Use To Find Peace, Love and Confidence After A Toxic Relationship or go to https://sarahkramsey.com/

Beverly’s new book: Escaping From Emotional Abuse: Healing From the Shame You Don’t Deserve

Archives

Magazine

Publication Article
Psychology Today Forgiving Yourself for Choosing an Abusive Partner
New Living Magazine The Nice Girl Syndrome
US News and World Report – Wellness It Wasn’t Your Fault
New Living Magazine The Nice Girl Syndrome
Psychjourney The Nice Girl Syndrome
Cosmopolitan The Nice Girl Syndrome
Operah .com Loving Him without Losing You
Men’s Health “Wipe Away Her Tears” (The Power of Apology)
Canadian Living The Power of Apology
The Art of Saying Sorry The Power of Apology
Lifetime Magazine The Power of Apology
U.S. Weekly The Power of Apology
Oprah Winfrey Emotional Abuse
Oprah Magazine 21 Things to Stop Worrying About Right Now
Health Should You Throw is the Towel: Five Signs that your Relationship is
All Washed Up
Psychology Today The Stealth Saboteur: A Field Guide to Passive-Aggression
Real Simple An Apology
Natural Health Anger Therapy
Shape The Art of Saying Sorry
New Living Getting Beyond Your Anger
Cosmopolitan How to Rein in His Mother’s Influence
Men’s Health Wipe Away Her Tears
Canadian Living The Power of Apology
Cosmopolitan Saying No to Mommyhood
Redbook How to Raise A Sexually Healthy Child
Psychology Today Family Therapist Examines Relationship Between
Grandfather and Granddaughter
Cosmopolitan The Perfect Girlfriend Trap
Allure 11 Tips From Therapists on Coping With Anxiety During the Novel Coronavirus Pandemic

Newspaper

Sunday Express (National British newspaper). “Who’s Sorry Now?”

The City Paper (Nashville), “Just Say You’re Sorry and All Will Be Forgiven” .

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, “Who’s Sorry Now?”

Copley News, “I’m Sorry: Start the new year with an apology”.

The Dallas Morning News – Media Room, Book review, The Parenthood Decision.

The Oregonian – “Are You Fit To Breed?

The Cambrian – Front page article, “Simpson Case Focuses Spotlight on Domestic Abuse” .

New Times – Feature Article, “Local Author Turns Helping Herself Into Self-Help”.

The Orange County Register – Relationships Notebook column, “Body Miracles Aren’t Found All Bottled Up”.

Arizona Republic – Two-page article based on “The Emotionally Abused Woman”. Front page, “Life and Leisure” section.

Los Angeles Times Book Review – “Divorcing A Parent” .
The Cambrian – Feature story, Arts and Events Section, “Recovering From A Fall.”

Star Tribune (Minneapolis, Minn.) – Interviewed as part of article on toxic parents entitled “Adults Don’t Need To Forgive Parents Who Abuse Them” .

Washington Post – One page interview by Don Oldenburg in “Style Plus” section entitled “When Adult Children Divorce Their parent” .

Los Angeles Times – One page article, entitled “When Life With Parents Is Bitter”.

Los Angeles Herald Examiner – Front page Q & A section, “An Expert in anger on Why You Should Express Yours”

Magazine and Newspaper Articles

How to Determine If Someone You Care About Is a Narcissist

Not all abusers are narcissists and not all narcissists are abusers.

Posted November 10, 2022

KEY POINTS

  • Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) include a grandiose sense of self-importance and a need for admiration, among others.
  • Many people with NPD may not be aware that their behavior is hurtful or abusive.
  • The three subtypes of NPD are grandiose narcissism, vulnerable narcissism, and malignant narcissism.

Narcissists are often portrayed as evil people who deliberately focus on undermining and destroying their partner. But this simply is not true for many with narcissism or narcissistic traits. Although their behavior can certainly fall under the category of emotional abuse, many who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are unaware that their behavior is hurtful. And many who suffer from NPD straddle the fence between being an unintentional abuser and …
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Forgiving Yourself for Choosing an Abusive Partner

Forget The Mistake, Remember The Lesson written on a notebook.[/caption]

Utilizing self-understanding as a tool for self-forgiveness.

KEY POINTS

  • There are certain circumstances that can set a person up to enter a relationship with an abusive partner.
  • Many victims repeat a pattern based on what they learned by witnessing their parents’ behavior or having been abused in childhood.
  • Life experiences such as being abandoned, neglected, or overly controlled can also contribute to being attracted to an abusive person.

In my previous post, we began a discussion about the importance of self-understanding. Self-understanding can help you realize why you ended up in an abusive relationship in the first place, as well as why you stayed in one. For example, while any man or woman can find themselves in an abusive relationship, there are certain circumstances that can set a person up to enter such a relationship and to have a difficult time leaving an abusive partner. In particular, it has been found that victims of abuse have a history of the following …
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Not All Emotional Abusers Are Narcissists

Some abusers do so intentionally; others are blind to the harm they’re causing.

KEY POINTS

There isn’t just one type of emotional abuser.
Some emotional abusers intentionally harm their victims; others do it unintentionally.
Unintentional abusers are often unconsciously repeating what was done to them, or may suffer from borderline personality disorder.

Some narcissists are unaware of the damage they are doing to their partners, while others are very aware and in fact do so deliberately.

I wrote my first book about emotional abuse, The Emotionally Abused Woman, back in 1992. But it is only in the last few years that emotional abuse has been widely discussed.

The good news, then, is that emotional abuse is finally getting the attention it deserves. The bad news is that most people are still not getting it right.

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Healing Emotional Abuse Through Self-Compassion

Part 1: How practicing self-compassion can help heal emotional abuse.

KEY POINTS

Self-compassion is a powerful tool for those who experience emotional abuse.
Those experiencing emotional abuse seldom offer themselves compassion.
Self-compassion can help you develop more self-acceptance.
If you have been a victim of emotional or physical abuse, you are probably very good at putting yourself in your partner’s position and imagining how they feel. And you no doubt have a great deal of compassion for how difficult your partner’s life has been and what struggles and challenges he faces every day. But I doubt that you offer yourself the same compassion.

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Healing Emotional Abuse with Self Kindness

Part II: Self-kindness can help you get stronger if emotionally abused.

KEY POINTS

Self-kindness is a powerful tool to help heal emotional abuse.
People need to take the time to acknowledge how much the abuse has hurt them.
Comforting oneself through self-kindness can be the beginning of the healing journey.
This is Part II. in my series on how self-compassion can help heal victims of emotional abuse.

Once you have begun to acknowledge your suffering, you are ready to learn how to provide yourself with self-kindness, an important component of self-compassion.

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Beverly Cited in Article Published by Allure

11 Tips From Therapists on Coping With Anxiety During the Novel Coronavirus Pandemic

“You may not be able to see your friends, but there are other ways to stay connected.”

“Right now, we’re dealing with unprecedented circumstances and adjusting to life during a global pandemic. Those of us who already struggle with mental illnesses like generalized anxiety disorder and depression …”

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