How to Reduce the Shame Caused by Emotional Abuse

How to Reduce the Shame Caused by Emotional Abuse

An effective shame-reduction program. As I have shared in my previous posts, I believe that shame is the most damaging aspect of emotional abuse, so much so that I designed a shame reduction program for emotional abuse victims. This proprietary program has been highly successful with my clients. It features six major avenues for reducing or eliminating the shame of emotional abuse. They are: Emotional abuse de-programming. Like members of a...

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Why Shame is the Most Damaging Aspect of Emotional Abuse

Why Shame is the Most Damaging Aspect of Emotional Abuse

Heal your shame in order to end an emotionally abusive relationship. Emotional abuse and shame go hand in hand—a perfect marriage, so to speak. Shame is a significant factor in emotional abuse since it is the primary damage caused by emotional abuse. It is also the primary tool used by abusers and the source of emotionally abusive behavior in abusers. Coming to identify how shame is affecting you and understanding how shame works to diminish...

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8 Signs A Loved One Might Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

8 Signs A Loved One Might Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

By Kelsey Borresen | 01/08/2020 05:08pm EST Here’s how to know if a friend or family member could be a victim of mental abuse and what you can do to help them. Emotional abuse, unlike physical abuse, can be so subtle and insidious that friends, family and even the victims themselves may not recognize the toxic dynamics at play. At first, the emotionally abusive partner may act in ways that appear loving and attentive on the surface — all...

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Stop Shaming Victims of Sexual Assault for Not Reporting

Stop Shaming Victims of Sexual Assault for Not Reporting

Ten (understandable) reasons why victims of sexual assault do not report. Being sexually assaulted in one of the most shame-inducing traumas that a person can experience. So it is understandable that victims don’t need to be further shamed by being shamed for not reporting the crime. And yet, that is exactly what happens whenever we hear, for the first time, about a sexual assault that occurred months or years ago. “Why didn’t she report it...

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Why didn’t you report? Shame, shame, shame

Why didn’t you report? Shame, shame, shame

Beverly Engel contributes to the discussions on USA Today A lawyer who had represented a second woman accusing Brett Kavanaugh of a long-ago sexual assault said Tuesday she stands by her account and is in the process of obtaining a Washington, D.C., lawyer. (Sept. 25) AP As Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh faced allegations of sexual assault from Christine Blasey Ford, President Donald Trump came to his defense. “It’s a...

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Why Victims Are Reluctant to Report Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse

Why Victims Are Reluctant to Report Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse

Why more women don’t report sexual assaults: A survivor speaks out. “Victims are often too ashamed to come forward. Sexual assault is a very humiliating and dehumanizing act against someone. The person really feels invaded and defiled, and there is a lot of shame attached to that,” Engel told ABC News. She continued, “Attached to that shame is a lot of self-blame. Victims of sexual assault almost always blame themselves,...

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